Wedding Planning

Mar 12

Escort Cards vs Table Plan

It’s a good idea to have a seating plan at your wedding- especially if your guest list is over 15. Many couples stress about the seating plan as they’re afraid they might upset family and friends. As long as everyone gets a seat, no real disasters are likely to occur.  The seating plan should be finalised when you submit final numbers to your caterer however, the reality is that seating plans will not be completely finalised until the actual wedding day. Guests fall ill, unexpected guests show and Uncle Joe insists on sitting at table 8.

You may have heard or seen the words “Escort Cards” thrown around but what exactly are these and what’s the difference between Escort Cards and Table Plans?  The escort card is a more modern approach to assigning a table to your guests, the trend starting in American weddings. These are generally handed out at the cocktail reception and assign guests to a specific table for the meal. Once they find their table they will have a place card and seat waiting for them. Escort cards are a great ice breaker as guests tend to walk around with a card in hand asking other guests what table they’re sitting at! They make beautiful decorations as well- see below.

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A table plan is mounted onto an easel and visually shows guests which table they will be seated at. They can look beautiful but the flaw with the table plan is that you will need to cross guests off the board who didn’t show up and you will need to add names for those unexpected guests. It’s not something I would recommend if you are a perfectionist. You can create additional escort cards for unexpected cards, or pull them for those that did not show, which is a much cleaner look.

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Mar 12

Wedding Monogram Etiquette

Monograms have become increasingly popular with weddings and are staples in parts of the world such as the Southern US. If you choose to have a monogram on your stationery, napkins, dance floor, or anywhere else you need to consider a few things so you don’t breach etiquette.

First, if you’re having a duo-gram (a monogram with the initials of the couple’s first name and the first letter of the groom’s last name) this should only be seen after the ceremony. You are not Mr. and Mrs. xxx until after the ceremony so you should save showing off your new last name until after the celebration.

Second, if you want to have a monogram for your printed materials in advance of the ceremony or during the ceremony (invitations, order of service, etc), then use the first initials of the couple’s first name.


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Mar 12

Wedding Ceremony Music

When considering wedding ceremony music, there are important factors you need to think about:

1. Style / Formality

2. Sound / Pitch


Style / Formality

Are you having a formal or informal wedding? Is there a cultural element to it? What about a theme? Answers to these questions should have a big impact on your music selection. A string quartet would work well for a formal wedding whereas an acoustic guitar would work well for an informal wedding. Research music from you and your partner’s home countries then perhaps you can incorporate cultural music elements – think bag pipes or steel drums!



Sound / Pitch

Think about the size of the venue when selecting ceremony instruments and number of musicians. A duo of strings may get lost in a grand cathedral whereas they would be perfect for a small and intimate chapel. Make sure the sound will carry well and be heard by all guests, and always get music approved by your officiant. If possible, include the musicians names on your order of service (programs in the US).


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Feb 12

Bridesmaid – Do I or Don’t I?

Most bridesmaids are selected because they have a close friendship or family connection with the bride. Dare I say it, I have noticed some bridesmaids are selected purely for their outstanding organisational skills and authoratitive leadership because the bride knows she will perform her duties and act the perfect bridesmaid.

If you’ve been asked to take a role in the wedding party, make sure you are emotionally and financially available for it. Do you have the time for all the pre-wedding engagements, get togethers and wedding planning? Do you have the extra finances to purchase the Hen night, your dress, shoes, accessories, and hotel if required?

Over the years I’ve picked up some helpful bridesmaids do’s and don’t so if you’re a bridesmaid in waiting, read the below before saying “I will”:



Do: Make sure you’re up for the job emotionally and financially. Less damage will be done to your friendship if you kindly decline a bridesmaid rather than accepting and not living up to the responsibilities.


Do: Check in with the bride every month by giving her a call and asking how you can help.  This may seem tedious and unnerving as to what will happen next, but most of the time the bride is just looking for emotional support and that phone call will mean the world to her.


Do: Look after the bride on the wedding day to make sure she’s a happier version of herself. Get her a drink if her glass if empty, tell her when she needs a new coat of lipstick, and replace her louboutins with a pair of flip flops when her feet start to ache.


Do: Check your emotions at the door. If the bride does something that upsets you, you need to let it go. The bride will be extremely emotional on the wedding day and a fight with her best friend would be seen as the start of a bad day.


Don’t: Disappear throughout the planning process and especially on the wedding day. You’ve accepted a supporting role so you need to live up to it. I’ve witnessed far too many bridesmaids consume an excessive amount of alcohol and ignore all bridesmaid responsibilities on the day.


Don’t: Get too inebriated on the wedding day. You are there to represent the bride and her family. Likewise, don’t complain or badmouth anyone on the day. Smile for the camera!


Don’t: Assume the type of party your bride wants for her Hen night. Give her various suggestions then involve her in the planning.


Don’t: Make the day about you. As exciting as it is to look glamorous and make a grand entrance, you must remember that the wedding day is about your friend and the celebration of her marriage.

Feb 12

The best wedding App

This past weekend iconic wedding gown designer, Vera Wang, launched a wedding planning and design app. It’s the best wedding app I’ve come across and it even helps me during client meetings as it’s filled with inspirational pictures. The app includes 1,000+ pictures, over 100 planning articles, a DIY design board, and a guest list tracker.

PROS: It’s great if you’re newly engaged and just jumping into your wedding plans as there are inspirational design boards based around classic, traditional, modern, whimsical, and romantic wedding styles. Looking at boards from this perspective can help a couple decide on the style and atmosphere they want to have at their wedding.

CONS: The app shuts down every few minutes. By the time you locate your last picture/article you only have a minute or two before it shuts down. Tip: Make sure you tag your favourite photos under favourites so they’re easy to locate.

The wedding app is currently available for iPads and iPhones so if you’re a technology wizard then download the app for FREE by the end of February, or purchase it for 9.99 USD after March. Have fun and let me know how you get on!

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Feb 12

You’re Engaged!!

The ring’s on your finger, the champagne’s been popped, your friends keep pestering you for a wedding date, now what? Wedding planning!

There are three tasks you should do before diving deep into the world of lush silk and perfect bows:

1. Decide on a location

2. Draw up a guest list

3. Set a budget



Together with your fiancé/é decide where you want to get married. I’m not referring to the actual venue at this early stage, but the town, city, or country in which you want to hold your wedding ceremony and/or reception. In many cases this will be a no brainer but if you’re indecisive then think about the following to help generate ideas:

  • Would you rather stay close to home or have a destination wedding? If you want a destination wedding, do you think your family and friends can afford the costs associated with air tickets and accommodation?
  • Do you want a city wedding, country wedding, or beach wedding?
  • What type of venue do you envision hosting your wedding in? Is it a grand castle surrounded by a moat, a stately home with elegant decor and luscious manicured lawn, a contemporary gallery in the city, a divine five star hotel, or is it a family barn in the middle of the countryside?
  • The distance from the nearest airport. If you have guests flying in to witness your nuptials then you want to consider the distance from the airport to your chosen location.

You should also decide if it will be formal or casual as this will help with process of elimination later on when searching for venues. If you want a formal wedding you won’t look at certain venues such as barns, 3 star hotels, restaurants, etc., you should only look at the appropriate venues and where they may be located.  As you’re answering these questions you start to understand what type of wedding you want and eventually you’ll narrow in on a location.


Guest List

Together with your partner and both sets of parents, draw up a first draft guest list which has two separate columns. One column is for those guests that must be invited to the wedding, and the other column is for guests you would like to invite to the wedding.  Tips for editing the guest list will come in another post…

MUST                        MAYBE

 Things to consider when drawing up your guest list:

  • What size wedding do you want?
  • Will you have the budget to cater to all your guests?



Figure out realistically how much you have to spend. Sit down with your fiancé/é and your parents to discuss the wedding budget in depth. If your parents want to contribute in someway but don’t like the idea of just giving you a fixed amount of cash, then suggest they pay for certain parts of the day such as the photography, or the band, etc,. so they know where they contributed.

If you’re on a budget, figure out where friends and family can help. There are tons of ways to save. First and foremost, hire a wedding planner! We save you thousands of pounds from the strong relationships we have with our vendors. As proof, I saved one couple £4,800 today alone! If you prefer not to go down that route then friends and family can help by calling vendors to get quotes, making flower arrangements, baking the cake, designing and printing the stationery, etc. Think outside the box and be creative. One thing I do suggest is signing an agreement with friends if they are playing a big role in your wedding such as baking the cake. Make sure the baker understands your wedding envision, the time of your wedding, the time he/she has access to the venue, the time the cake stand must be removed from the venue the following day, and the details of the order. It does bring your personal relationship into a mildly awkward business relationship, but for good purpose.

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