I’ve just written a list that, quite frankly, is pretty daunting. There are a mere 12 and a half weeks left until the big day and I’m not entirely sure how I’m going to get everything done. At this stage, I’m sure wedding planning could easily become a full-time job. There’s just so much to do!
There are no fewer than 46 points on my list. Which is confusing, since I spent the whole of last weekend in frantic organization mode – fuelled by copious amounts of martini and helped by my amazing dad, who was in London for a visit and spent Saturday cooking for me and keeping me calm in the face of such an avalanche of wedding admin.
I made headway into sorting out accommodation for my family, the bridal party, and all my lovely friends who are coming from abroad. I sent our invitations off to be printed (a BIG thank you to Phil on HELLO!’s art desk who designed them for us – we love them!), I wrote an ‘extra information’ sheet including taxi numbers, gift details, local hotels, etc etc, I contacted my bridal boutique to arrange my first fitting. (My dress is due to arrive in August and I’m nervous, I haven’t seen it since January). On top of all that, Sean went and picked up our ‘blues’ (official wedding documents) which went smoothly apart from him pretending that eight local women had objected to our marriage. I believed him for a fleeting moment…! Yet we don’t seem to have even made a dent into my seemingly ever-growing to do list.
Among the big things we have left to do (quite apart from the all-important business of paying for everything. Gulp…) are sorting out Sean’s wedding ring, booking a DJ, taste testing the menu, finding a hairdresser, choosing which version of the ceremony we want, deciding on logisitics – like how we’re going to get up north for the wedding, and back to London for our honeymoon flight that leaves Heathrow at 2pm the following day – buying dresses for my flower girls, getting the ushers measured up for their suits, organising our honeymoon visas, buying (and deciding on) wedding favours, and sending out the invitations.
Wow. That seems like rather a lot. And doesn’t even scratch the surface of the actual list.
One of my main concerns at the moment is the music. We thought long and hard about whether to have a DJ or a band for the evening reception. Due to the fact we both have a very clear idea of what songs we want playing, and our budget is now being stretched to the limit, we’ve opted for a DJ. (They tend to be far cheaper than hiring a band. In my head I think I’ve always imagined having a Glady Knight and the Pips-esque outfit providing the music at my big day, but we can’t have everything…)
Sean got on the case and found a DJ who lets you give him a playlist for the evening, which would be ideal for us. If we can ever get round to agreeing on what should be on it, that is. My music tastes are very pop, Motown, RnB and, ahem, reggaeton-oriented (thanks to my time living in Spain. Plus I think lots of my friends would be upset if the evening didn’t include a Daddy Yankee portion… I’m looking at you, Jude and Char!). I’m also partial to some 90s classics, whereas Sean prefers guitar-based songs that I’m not sure will work quite as well at a disco… Anyway, once we’ve reached some sort of compromise we’ll book, and that will be the DJ ticked off the list. I think we’ll create an iPod playlist, too. I don’t know what time the DJ goes home but one of the reason’s we hired our venue is because it doesn’t wind things up at a certain time. We can party on until dawn if we fancy it – so we need to make sure there’s enough music to take us through.
We’ve had to decide what music we want during the ceremony, too. I’d always presumed I’d get married in a church so there would be an organist. Since that’s not the case, we’ve decided to go for a piano, which our venue will provide for us in the room we tie the knot in. Luckily for us, an old family friend Lesley, who taught me the piano when I was at school, has very kindly offered to play for us. I can’t think of anyone I’d rather musically-accompany me up the aisle actually – she’s insanely talented and I know it will all be in safe hands with her. Not to mention how much it means to have someone you’ve known for years involved in such an important part of the day. I love these personal touches.
On another note, my fitness regime is going really well – and I’m off on a FitFarms retreat this weekend. Eek. Wish me luck – I’ll report back soon!