Posts Tagged: curvy women

Jan 13

Guilty January

Over the festive period, all I did that was different from normal was eat a big dinner, snaffled up party food at highly inappropriate times of the day, nicked half of the chocolates I bought my husband (sorry Andy), and drank a bit more alcohol than normal. I still went out for my daily walk and did housework (although maybe not quite as much as usual!).  I guzzle herbal tea by the gallon anyway and this Christmas was no different.

I love herbal tea, peppermint is a favourite

In short, I don’t think I’ve been especially unhealthy but instead just took it easy, and chilled out. I don’t believe I’m unique in that.

Us curvy women are more likely to put on weight than our slimmer sisters this is true. Even so, why then do we all feel so much guilt? Could it be connected with us being barracked and told we should feel awful, because if we don’t – well, there’s something wrong with us?  An unholy torrent of emails from slimming companies started appearing in my inbox just before Christmas, and right on time on 1st January. They suggested diets aplenty:

Eat what you want…just fast for two days each week.

Eat what you want…just from certain food groups.

Eat what you want…only between 9am and 5pm.

Eat what you want…as long as it’s eggs.

Our shakes are delicious – and you won’t feel hungry, we promise!

I’ve had a leaflet through the door from not one, not two but three local slimming groups, and one from the local gym. That’s quite an industry going on there.

It was my wedding anniversary this week so we went to celebrate in our favourite Italian restaurant, The Casa Italia on Stanley Street in Liverpool. We love it due to the food and atmosphere but because of the amazing sculpture of Eleanor Rigby (from The Beatles song) right across the road. Everyone says hello to Eleanor before they go in and tuck into their food with no self consciousness, but hey that’s Italian food for you!

On Saturday  I posted pictures of our dinners – and wine – on Twitter and Facebook. I had many tweets back, some telling me how ‘jealous’ people were because I was eating pasta in January. For a couple of minutes I felt like a big old greedy heifer, then I thought no – this is just silly. Eat your food, woman. It’s delicious!

The offending pasta dish – Tagliatelle Spinaci

I’m not saying people shouldn’t limit the amount of food they have if it’s calorific or liable to put the pounds on, but should there be a sense of shame at a bit of pasta?

What got to me was that people felt guilty, about the thought of having a hearty meal. A mere two weeks after the last one.

With women feeling more unhappy than ever about their bodies  – unjustifiably, in my view – than ever before, being told we have to diet or else isn’t good, is it?


Nov 12

Look to the stars

Mankind can send a rocket to Mars, produce vegan cheese (should you wish to buy some, though don’t – it’s grim stuff!), hoodwink millions into believing 50 Shades of Grey is a fine novel worth reading but somehow struggles to get its head around correct sizing for women.

Every woman knows it’s often a case of lucky dip when you try on dresses. A size ten might fit someone beautifully in one shop, whereas in another a size twelve won’t squeeze over their hips. Fashion designers “blah blah blah” on about different fabrics, cuts and so on (yawn)  but it doesn’t make the situation any less crackers.

Myself in the Curvissa star dress with City Talk 105.9’s Breakfast Show present Mick Coyle

For curvy women though, the sizing issue is more of a problem.  If your chest or hips are curvier than the rest of your body then sizing can be a nightmare. I always struggle with dresses, so when Curvissa offered to send me a dress that wasn’t wrap over, I wavered.

I’ve had such a rigmarole from other labels over sizing. I often order something and it doesn’t fit, unable to accommodate my bust. Or, it will cover that area well but leave the rest of me swimming in fabric. I have to accommodate the dress rather than it, me. So, I usually go for wrap over dresses and tops because they highlight my waist and cleavage – and a sash or belt pulled tight works wonders with an otherwise loose dress.

Often my dress size veers into plus size territory, and I’m not alone. I, and other curvy women, shouldn’t have to wear clothes are simply too big, but often there is no choice.

When the Curvissa dress arrived, I was very pleasantly surprised indeed. It has an scooped neckline – usually a major no-no for me as such necklines act as a ‘hammock’ across my breasts, making them into a shapeless mono-boob. Not this dress though, probably because of the star pattern and loose sleeves. It has a ruffled front too, which breaks the hammock-ish line up.

At the launch of the new Dodgy single

It’s such a cute design, with a flared skirt – and a pretty ruffled hem. I love this dress, it’s so adaptable.

I’ve been to live music gigs in in it, including the launch of band Dodgy’s new single (This Love Is) Bigger Than Both of Us  and I’ve also worn it for my regular spot on the breakfast show on Liverpool’s City Talk 105.9.

A winner!


Aug 12

Curvy doesn’t make you fat

I’m getting mixed messages again. Just before the Olympics, a ranking official observed heptathlete Jessica Ennis was, and I quote, ‘fat’.

Ennis’ coach quite rightly retorted the official in question spoke nonsense.  Many of my male friends volunteered to examine pictures of Jessica, in the name of sport and national interest you understand, to decide for themselves if she was up to the job of completing a heptathlon.

They’re selfless, my friends. True heroes.

The boys and pretty much everyone else quickly decided she wasn’t carrying too much weight at all, and what do you know, Jessica cleaned up in her sport this August. In fact, since so many UK women athletes won medals and were just generally ace during the Olympic fortnight, most have been declared desirable, beautiful, healthy, and indeed the female ideal by the public and media alike.

I was chuffed as well to hear some of the more curvier women in the public eye at the moment have topped a survey by cosmetic surgery group MYA concerning desirability.  1,056 participants across the UK were asked which celebrity body parts they preferred. Kim Kardashian had the most desirable body in all and Beyonce, bottom  (with Kim second and Jennifer Lopez bringing up the rear, if you’ll excuse the pun) and legs. Both Kardashian and Beyonce have very curvy figures – and are the epitome of health.

The survey found that ‘…when it comes to women’s body parts, bigger is considered better. Respondents favoured full lips, wide eyes and filled-out bottoms. We’ve really seen a U-turn in attitude towards body shape. It’s great to see curvy women like Beyoncé and Kim Kardashian topping the list for best body. I imagine that if we repeated the study 20 years ago, or in the US, we’d have drastically different results.’

The MYA survey was compiled some weeks before the Olympics. Were those participants questioned now, I wonder how many of the healthy, fit women athletes  – Ennis,  boxer Nicola Adams, swimmer Rebecca Adlington, and cyclist Victoria Pendleton – would be included, having been celebrated by the media at the female ideal since they won medals and not before, tellingly.  It’s only right we hold up these amazing women as role models but curvy fit celebrities should be given their due also, the likes of Beyonce has always maintained her amazing body via exercise – and being healthy.

The singer, actress and model will never be thin, it simply isn’t her body shape.  Anyone who has ever seen a Beyonce concert knows that the sheer amount of dancing she does throughout  (she doesn’t stop!) means she must be physically fit. Were she not, the woman wouldn’t be able to keep up.

Swimmer Rebecca Adlington is broad shouldered – she has to be, to swim that fast – and if she didn’t have her amount of muscle and healthy body fat she wouldn’t be able to do her job. Fact.

Both women are ‘curvy’, the very word certain corners of our media use as a euphemism for being overweight.

Being curvy and full figured does not make you fat, anything but. The likes of Rebecca Adlington and Beyonce are testament to that.

I hope this new way of looking women continues, and very different body shapes continue to be celebrated.

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