August, 2011

Aug 11

Pre-wedding getaway

With less than four weeks to go before the big day, people keep asking me if I’m stressed out.

It’s a fair enough question. Most brides by this point are approaching meltdown, right? I really don’t know how I’m supposed to feel – I’ve never done this before, after all.

I feel excited, scared – maybe a bit nervous – but stressed? Well no, actually I’m not.

I’m sure that’s partly to do with the fact that Spain pretty much shuts down in August, so the running around has ceased. July was pretty busy because we knew we had to get everything done before the end of that month, but now it feels like we can relax.

Oh yes, and there is the small matter of the wonderful pre wedding break I’ve just returned from.

I spent the most amazing week at Kaliyoga – a super relaxing yoga retreat in the mountains of the Alpujarras region, close to Granada.

I slept in a tepee under the stars, ate delicious vegetarian food, trekked to a Buddhist monastery and even tried acupuncture for the first time.

I’ve come back feeling like a new person – like you could throw anything at me right now and it would just bounce off.

And before you ask, I haven’t been paid to write this or given any freebees – this is 100 per cent my own honest opinion.

Much as I can’t wait to get married to J it was nice to have some “space” for a week and just do whatever I wanted.

It’s not that he’s high maintenance or anything, but when you’re part of a couple there is always going to be some compromise on what you do, when you eat, when you go to bed etc.

But last week my time was completely my own.

And I met so many interesting people from all walks of life – Alicia the Spaniard living in Zurich with her South African boyfriend, Veronica the deputy head teacher, Christine the salad buyer, Bob the Glaswegian GP, Kara the Kiwi sports industry professional…

I chewed all their ears off about my wedding as we sat around the pool – and they all seemed genuinely interested.

I really delighted in telling people who I’d never met about what it’s like getting married to a Spaniard in Spain. It wasn’t until they started asking all kinds of questions that I realised how special and different our wedding will be.

I suppose everyone thinks that about their own wedding though, don’t they?

Telling them how we’d sorted everything out made me realise how far we’ve come and just how much work has gone into everything.

Now I’m more excited than ever about getting married. Roll on the stress, if that’s what’s to come. I cannot wait to be Señora de Borrachero!

Aug 11

A song and dance

With most of the big things taken care of, I’m starting to think about (and fret about) the little things.

Where do brides put their stuff, for one. You never see them with bags. True, I won’t need to bring my house keys, but I might need some tissues.

And what should I do with my mobile phone? I guess I won’t really need it, because everyone I would ever need to call will be with me all day.

But the one thing that’s been bothering me, more than most – is the First Dance.

I’m thinking back to J’s friend Jimmy’s wedding. He danced to a slow version of Somewhere Over the Rainbow with his new wife Bea.

Well I say danced. Bea clamped her hands around his neck and tried to make him move to the music. He had a look of raging discomfort on his face, like he was being forced to watch Sex and The City 2 or something.

Car crash doesn’t even begin to describe it.

I don’t want me and J to end up like that! And it’s a possibility, that’s the worst thing.

He doesn’t really dance. Maybe bobbing head finger dancing, but no more than that. Propping up the bar is more his style, really.

I guess we need to practice, that’s clear. But what will we dance to?

I love Eighties pop, he hates it. He loves heavy metal, but I don’t really see myself spinning round the dancefloor to anything by Sepultura .

We both like dance music, but there’s nothing there that really fits the bill.

J suggested we have Common People by Pulp – I don’t think he was even joking.

We don’t have a special song (how do people even get those?) so we’re a bit stuck really.

I’m hoping inspiration suddenly hits us along the way. Time is running out though – six weeks and counting!

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