“Gemma, how do you plan a wedding?”
She laughed, but I was only half joking when I cornered my already successfully married co-worker Gem in the kitchen with exactly this question.
Some of you might have read her lovely blog Here Comes the Bride. If you have, you’ll know why I felt she was a good person to go to for advice – she pulled off her big day with the poise of a pro. And she never seemed overly stressed (well, not on the surface anyway). Surely she could let me in on the secret?
“Kath, don’t worry,” she told me. “You’ve got lots of lovely people around you who’ll help you.
“The most important things are your venue and your dress. Everything else will just fall into place once you’ve got that sorted out.”
Of course she’s right. Though I really wish my mum was here in Spain to help me (and was fluent in Spanish,) I do have a good team here. J’s mum has helped organise three other weddings (his older sisters and brothers) and I have three future sisters-in-law who will gladly help out.
I guess it’s just like starting your homework – sometimes the worst thing is actually thinking about doing it. Once you get started you realise it’s not that bad really – actually it might be sort of fun.
And testing too, I guess. A Spanish friend Christina told me, after congratulating me on my engagement: “Let me just tell you one thing – you’ll both argue about the wedding, there’s no way around it.”
J is not so worried though. “You just plan it with my mum, I’ll just turn up on the day,” he says. Of course he’s joking, isn’t he?
The dress can wait for now. So the first thing is finding a venue. At the moment we want to do something really small (only for the families) and something a little bigger in Madrid for friends too.
The harder thing will obviously be finding the place to say “I do” in Spain, so that’s what we need to concentrate on first. We want to have a ceremony in a church too, so that’s another consideration.
My future mother-in-law Linda has already said she’ll come with me to look round places. But before we do that there’s one important thing that needs to be decided – how many people – and who – are we going to invite to this wedding?
Oh my god, where to even start on that one?