08
Jul 13

Marie Curie Midsummer Party

Heather Kerzner and some of the Marie Curie nurses

Heather Kerzner with Marie Curie nurses

Last week we attended the Marie Curie Midsummer Party. Hundereds of people gathered to look at the magnificent art on display and bid on the wonderful items in the charity auction, all in aid of Marie Curie Cancer Care. Dozens of people donated all kinds of luxury items to the aution, we dontated one of our Bodhimaya luxury wellbeing experiences.

The glitz and glamour of the evening helped shine a light on the wonderful work Marie Curie do and helped to raise over £840,000 for the charity!

Princess Beatrice, The Duchess of York, and Princess Eugenie

Princess Beatrice, The Duchess of York and Princess Eugenie

Marie Curie provides care for terminally ill patients. They are best known for their network of 2,000 Marie Curie nurses, who work in the homes of terminally ill patients across the UK, providing practical care and support. They also have nine Marie Curie Hospices across the UK providing expert care and the best quality of life for people with cancer and other illnesses. During the evening we met and spoke to several of the nurses who are the backbone of Marie Curie. We left touched and inspired by the stories they told us and the passion and commitment they have for their work. Radiatiing positivity they made me realise that these nurses were able to bring more than physical care to their patients, perhaps most importantly they are able to bring happiness, dignity and compassion to people in the final moments of life.

Myself, Constance Gotsopoulou and Daniel O'shaughnessy

Myself, Constance Gotsopoulou and Daniel O’Shaughnessy

Cancer care isnt just about finding a cure, it is also about looking after those who suffer with cancer, some of whom are unable to win their battle with the disease. Effecting all of us in some way or another it is important that we all give our thoughts, energy and donations to charites like Marie Curie that are on the front line fighting this disease and the effects it has on individuals and their families.

To make a donation to Marie Curie and ensure their work continues please click here

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Cornelius is a mind and meditation expert. He has clinics and classes across London and Berkshire. He is also the cofounder of Bodhimaya and holds transformative and educational detoxification retreats in the UK and around the world. For more information please visit www.bodhimaya.com

 
 

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10
May 13

ANGER !!!!!!!!!

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“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”
Mark Twain

Anger is something that we all feel from time to time. It is a natural emotion and like most emotions there is nothing wrong with it when it happens in response to a certian type of situation. Anger can of course be incredably motivating, it can cause us to stand up for what we believe in, to change our lives, to change society, to defend ourselves and others. However for some anger is a far too familiar feeling, some live with anger on a daily basis, anger that is triggered by anything and everything. If we see someone act in a cruel way towards another person or if someone acts in a cruel way towards us then it is natural and healthy that we should become momentarily angered by this, but if somone leaves the lid off the toothpaste and we find ourselves spending the day getting wound up and angry about it then we need a look at our anger, at what is causing that anger and our response to it.

The problem with anger is that it upsets us, there can be no peace of mind while we are angry. If on the odd occasion you become angry then its is not such a big deal, we get angry and then we calm down. However if we are angry all the time we dont get the chance to calm down, this means that we are never at peace.

Why am i angry all the time?

If anger is a problem for you then all of the tiny triggers that make you angry are not the problem. The reason you are angry is because of a much deeper issue. It could be anything but it will be something that has left you feeling deeply unsatisfied with life, something that has deeply hurt you. It could even be several things that put together have left you with a negative feeling about yourself and the world around you. You then move through life like a loaded gun, whenever something happens that you dont like it taps into the already brewing and bubbling resevior of anger within you and you get ANGRY. It is as if everytime something happens that we dont like it remind us how angry we are with life, as if every minor thing that doesnt go our way is an affirmation or a reminder of how unfair life is.

How can i stop being angry all the time?

- meditate, go for walks, stop living life at a thousand miles an hour. If you want to be happy and at peace with yourself and the world around you then you need to learn to relax and take a break. If you dont give your mind a chance to relax then ofcourse you are going to end up stressed and angry.

- Accept responsibility for your anger, it isnt someone elses fault that you are angry. It isnt claire’s fault that you are angry because SHE is using YOUR coffee mug at work, the anger is yours, take responsibilty for it. It is your emotion and it arises within your mind. It is only when we take responibility for something that we truly have the power to change it.

- Discover what is making you angry. You need to address the root cause of your anger. You may want someone else to help you. A good therapist can help you see what it causing your anger and help you to deal with it.

- Dont get stuck in the past. We dont need to keep holding on to the past, it has happened, its over. If we cant move on then all we are doing is living in the past and that isnt healthy.

- Forgive. Forgive people who have done you wrong. Forgiveness is something that frees us from our negative feelings, resolves anger and brings peace of mind

- Realise that the things that have left you feeling so angry with life are actually opportunities for growth. With the right kind of understanding and insight the things you suffer from today will become your strength in the future. The lessons we learn from understanding and overcoming our problems are invaluable to us. Although we might never wish these lessons upon ourselves they are in fact the making of us. It is up to us how you deal with lifes challenges, they can be a curse or a blessing depending on the way we look at them and how we deal with them.

 

Ultimately we must come to accept that life doesnt always give us what we want but it often gives us what we need. What we need to become wiser and more compassionate, what we need to develop insight and become healthy and mature adults. So dont sit there feeling angry about everything that has happened to you, life doesnt always go our way, accept that and move on. If we are to find peace of mind we need to surrender to life and accept its ups and downs. If we approach these ups and downs with the right attitude then we have the opportunity to turn whatever comes our way into something wonderful.

 

Cornelius is a mind and meditation expert he has clinics and classes across London and Berkshire. He is also the cofounder of Bodhimaya and holds transformative meditation, yoga and detoxification retreats in the UK and around the world. For more information please visit www.bodhimaya.com

 

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04
Apr 13

Be Here Now

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We spend our lives thinking about the past and future. 90% of our thinking is about something that has already happened or something that we think is going to happen in the future. Many of us reflect on the past with regret or sadness and fill our mind with expectiation and worry about the future. This is the cause of great unhappiness, it unsettles our mind and detaches us from our present moment experience. In reality the only thing that exists is this present moment, the past has already gone and the future hasnt even happened yet. When we stop getting lost in the past and future and return our attention to  the present moment we find that our experience of life changes, we become happy, peaceful and content.

To spend our lives absorbed in the past and future is to live a dream. Of course sometimes we need to think about the future or relfect on something that has already happened but we dont need to spend our lives constantly thinking about what has been or what will be.

So how can we be more present?

Firstly we need to become aware of the problem. Become aware of the amount of time that your mind is in the future or in the past. How much of your day are you the present moment?

The next step is to be present. Actively bring your attention back to the present moment. We do this by being aware of whats happening here and now. If you are eating lunch then bring your awareness to the taste and the texture of the food you are eating. If you are taking a walk bring your awareness to the sounds you are hearing and the sights you are seeing as you walk. Be present.

A great way of being present in any situation is to become aware of your breath. Become aware of the rise and fall of your chest as you breath in, the sensation of the breath as it moves through your body, the feeling of the breath as you breath in and out.

We become present by bringing our awareness to whatever we are doing in that moment. This reduces the amount of time we spend lost in the past and spend worrying about the future. The result is a mind that is peaceful, calm and happy.

 

 

 

Cornelius is a mind and meditation expert he has clinics and classes across London and Berkshire. He is also the cofounder of Bodhimaya and holds transformative and educational detoxification retreats in the UK and around the world. For more information please visit www.bodhimaya.com

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05
Mar 13

The Power Of Meditation

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What do Madonna, Tina Turner, Bill Clinton, and the Dalai Lama all have in common ? Not a lot you might say, but they all share a love of meditation and speak very highly of its benefits. Madonna has been using it for years, Tina Turner credits it with saving her life, Bill Clinton says that meditation leaves him feeling transformed and full of positive energy. The Dalai Lama say that meditation should be taught to every child in the world and that if we did this the world would be free of violence in a generation. Everyone that begins to practice and explore meditation has good things to say about it, for thousands of years people have used meditation to find inner peace,  it is found in every culture in some form or another. It is only recently that science has begun to  reveal to us just how effective meditation is a combating a whole host of problems. It has been proven to reduce stress, bring relief from depression and anxiety, reduce pain, make us more efficient and focused, give us a greater sense of awareness. I could write a thousand blogs and still not list all the ways in which meditation has the power to change our lives. It has such a huge impact on both our physical and emotional wellbeing, i have seen it totally transform people. The best part is that meditation is so simple and easy to learn that it can be practiced by anyone.

So what is meditation and why is it so incredibly effective at what it does?

Meditation is the practice of stilling the mind by taking our attention off of our thoughts and placing it on to something else, usually the breath. By focusing on our breath and not our thinking we reduce our thoughts and this leaves us with a sense of peace and stillness.

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Imagine a still lake, there is no disturbance in the water, the lake is peaceful and calm. Now imagine throwing stones into that lake. The stones cause a disruption on the surface of the water, the more stones that are thrown in the greater the disturbance. It is much the same with our mind, our mind in its natural state is very peaceful and calm, just like the lake. Although it might not seem like it, this is everyones basic state of mind. Our thoughts are like the stones, they cause a disturbance in the mind and we experience this disturbance as stress, anxiety and tension. The more thoughts we have the greater the disturbance. The practice of meditation reduces the amount of thoughts we have and allows our natural calm state of mind to reveal itself.

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05
Feb 13

Easy Ways To Reduce Stress

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We all have to cope with the stress and strain of modern life. In the last 200 years the world has gone through a rapid period of technological, industrial and societal change, the way human beings live has totally transformed. The problem is our bodies and our brains have hardly changed at all , evolution hasn’t had a chance to catch up with these rapid changes in the way we live our lives. Struggling to cope with the amount of stress we are under, many of us are feeling the pressure and finding it hard to cope. Stress has such a devastating effect on both the mind and the body it is essential that we find effective ways to deal with it. Here are some simple steps that are extremely effective at not just helping people cope with stress but thrive under it.

•    Go to sleep. Make sure you get quality sleep. so many of us sacrifice our sleep and as a result suffer from chronic exhaustion. I recommend that people get at least 8 hours sleep and try and get to sleep by 10. Your body does most of its repair work between 10pm and 2am

•    Eat well. Our body and mind needs quality, fresh and nutritious food to function well . If you make bad food choices then your body and mind are going to under a lot of stress. If you feel your diet needs looking at then consult a nutritionist to help you get back on track.

•    Watch the booze. Drinking over and above the recommended daily intake can lead to anxiety, stress, panic attacks and a whole host of problems. so keep your drinking to a few drinks spread throughout the week.

•    Eliminate people from your life that aren’t good for you. Some of the relationships we tolerate in life are very destructive. If you find you are surrounded by people who don’t care about your happiness who criticise and undermine you, who make your feel worthless and unhappy then its time to do a friend cleanse. You don’t need these people in your life, and if you cant avoid these people then learn to stand up to them.  Don’t be a door mat

•    Breath deeply. Just the simple act of stopping what we are doing and taking a few slow, deep and relaxing breaths can lower our stress levels dramatically. Try it next time you are feeling stressed. Stop what you are doing and just take a few deep breaths.

•    Get organised. Don’t live your life rushing around, flying from one thing to the next. Its a stressful way to live and will eventually take its toll on your health. Plan your day and give yourself plenty of time to get things done.

•    Meditate. Meditation is the best way to deal with stress. It has been proven in countless studies to not only relax us deeply but also cause deep and lasting positive changes to the structure of the brain. And you don’t have to meditate for hours at a time over a period of decades for these changes to happen. Meditate just 20mins a day and within  6 weeks you can completely transform the way you react and respond to stress.

These are just some of the things you can do that will help you to live a more relaxed and peaceful life. Put these things into action and within a month you will see the positive impact they have on your mind, your body, your work, your relationships and just about every other area of your life.

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07
Jan 13

All You Need Is Love

We are confronted by such a huge array of religions, philosophies and spiritual teachings that we are often left wondering which is right path and which is wrong path. They cant all be right, can they?

The muslims say there is no God except Allah, the Hindus say God has many forms, the buddhists don’t believe in an almighty creator, the christians say that the only way to peace is through Jesus. I spent years being confused by these differences. I threw myself into the experience of all these paths in the hope of finding out which one was the right one. The problem was that i had life changing mystical experiences in all of them, this left me more confused than ever. i met muslim saints, christians who were at peace, hindu holy men and women, enlightened buddhists, wise men and women of every religion and some who had no religion at all. i found them all deeply spiritual, wise and inspiring.

In time i came to realise that the form our faith takes is completely irrelevant, whatever name and form you have for God is besides the point, whether or not you believe in a God at all is besides the point. It is not our beliefs or ideas that are important but our intent, our actions and the attitude we have towards ourselves and others. Love, compassion, tolerance, wisdom, it is these things that are important, it is these things that the saints of all religions have tried to reveal to us.

 

 

Many people seem to be stuck in the misconception that their opinions are important, that the things they think about life, about God and about truth are so important that everyone else must think what they think and accept the truth as they see it. They live in a world of right and wrong, and they are of course right. They pick apart views, faiths and religions other than their own, but absorbed in belief, intellectual concepts and dogma they miss the point entirely. This is not spirituality, this is not the message of faith, of truth, of the buddhas or the saints.

If we look at the many different paths we realise that the only thing that is important is selflessness and love. While the opinions about God, life and truth differ wildly there is a core message of selflessness and love that is apparent in all paths. It is this core message that is the path, everything else is just window dressing. It really doesn’t matter what you think about God, life or the universe. It doesn’t matter what religion you are, if you pray to Shiva, Allah or if you dont believe in any God at all. It is love that is important, it is love that transforms, it is love that saves, it is love that reveals the higher nature of things. It is selflessness that gives rise to great compassion. It is selflessness and love that are important, when we lose sight of this we lose sight of the truth.

It is not so much the path that is important but the attitude of the one who walks it.

 

 

 

 

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