My quest to find the man of my dreams

Its been a while since I blogged but after receiving endless tweets and emails asking for updates here I am. Check me out being in demand! :)

For those of you that haven’t followed my blogs before I am a complete open book, I like to share everything straight from the heart because I know so many of you can relate to what I have been through. In a nutshell – way too much heartache! On my quest to meet the man of my dreams I will not settle for anything less than perfection. I would like to meet a kind giving man but I know he also has to be super fun, I do not mean giving in the material sense but someone that will go above and beyond for me everyday as I would for the person I love. I am so over being with selfish, self absorbed men.

Thank god for my friends who have listened to me rant on and on about this for months!

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Let’s rewind seven months. I had been single for just under a year and no such luck on the dating circuit! A friend of mine Marc set me up on a date with his work colleague Paul and this was the first guy for a long time that I felt could be right. We got on great but before long there were a lot of red flags. Mainly he told me he didn’t want a girlfriend so we all know what this means. I carried on seeing Paul whilst still dating other guys, I guess I was hopeful that Paul would change his mind but in the meantime I wasn’t going to put my life on hold for him. The problem was all the time I was seeing Paul I was never really interested in any of the poor guys that I went on dates with so it was counter productive and a waste of time.

Paul was really confusing because one minute he would be totally full on with me and the next he would disappear. He even suggested some kind of future with me at one point and whilst deep down I knew I didn’t want to be with a guy like this long term I was somehow drawn in. Maybe it was the challenge or the need to conquest him. My friends would all say to me, Nicola you don’t actually want him, you just don’t like losing because normally you can take your pick, I wouldn’t have gone that far but maybe that’s the truth. In hindsight his lack of ambition and drive would have bored me to tears eventually anyway.

If in doubt just go out with the girls and do a few shots!

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Now we are in March and somehow stumble across a book called…… wait for it. The Power Of The P***y. With a name like this you know it is going to be an intellectual read so of course I downloaded it straight away to listen to on audio at bed time. Girls this book changed my life but it wasn’t easy!!!! I have read so many books and I will list all of my favorites at the bottom of the blog but this one for me gave me all the tools I needed to sift through a fair few men to find the man of my dreams.

Available to buy at amazon here.

The biggest lesson I learned from this book is the game! The game is not a nice game in my eyes but 100% necessary and I was fully committed even though its something I would never have done before, I have obviously NOT been getting it right so far so why not try something new.

“You need to have four guys on the go at once”

The Game

You need to have four guys on the go at once…….. as I read this my eyes popped out of my head and my jaw dropped to the ground. Four guys at once, how an earth am I going to manage this????!!!!! Let me make a very important point here, you do not sleep with any of them!!!! There is a two month rule where by each guy you are with will prove himself to you, what is he willing to do to make you feel special? Does he go that extra mile? Does he call when he says he will? Do you meet his friends? Does he still want to see you when you don’t invite him in? Ultimately if a guy is completely into you he wont mind waiting however long it takes for the good stuff, mean while he is falling head over heals in love with you. Well this is what the book says. The book tells you to treat the men as you would a hob (so random I know) The two guys that are doing the most work get to the front of the hob and receive the most attention and the other two sit at the back until they prove otherwise. My god what happened to just meeting someone and falling in Love and it just feeling right? This is how it should happen in my eyes but apparently not. Grrrrrr I have spent so long wishing for a fairytale like romance and now I have resorted in playing games!!!

I want this!

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My next blog will be revealing the four guys I put on the hob! Just give me a few days to get permission to use there pictures…. Not sure how I am going to manage this one, I am friends with them all still so I hopefully it should be easy (apart from the one I suspected had a girlfriend or some other kind of secret life – no names mentioned Paul).

In the meantime it’s me and the Princess Poppy taking on the world! :)

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As promised other books I found really good on the same subject are below.

He’s Just Not That Into You

Why Men Love B*****s

It’s Called A Breakup Because It’s Broken

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