May, 2013

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Yoga is for everyone!

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It’s no secret that exercise and I are not the best of friends. I wish I could be the type of person to exercise everyday. I see so many people cycling, my friends are always going to the gym and some of my nearest and dearest have even run marathon or two in their time. So, I’ve been left behind for long enough and it seems that action must be taken.

Nevertheless, there is one form of exercise that intrigues me the most. Yoga! A few stretches here and there…. Easy right? Little did I know yoga is a tough workout but also a workout with so many benefits that it can leave you walking away feeling on top of the world, and it’s suitable for anybody. You can take it as easy as you want or you can really push yourself like I have.

So, this week I took myself over to my good friend, Laura Hamilton’s house with two yoga mats courtesy of the wonderful yoga brand Gaiam and tested out my first fitness session in the sunshine of Laura’s garden. Admittedly it was a bit of a giggle and we gossiped most of the way through, but it inspired me to go to a more professional class. Since then, I have done three classes in a week which has now left me feeling absolutely buzzing!

I can give you all the life coaching tips in the world from my experiences but what will complement any self-help you are doing is exercise in whatever form you decide suits you best.

 

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We use time as an excuse, especially if you have children and work commitments. But this is where I’ve found that DVD’s can come in handy. They’re cheaper than a gym membership and you can try your hand at all those tricky yoga poses in the comfort of your living room. For just £24.99 you can buy a beginners yoga kit which includes a DVD a lovely yoga mat and some other yoga bits to help you get started. The yoga kit I purchased was this Gaiam one I highly recommend you take a look.

Don’t make any more excuses, you can always find the time for at least a half and hour yoga fix and it’s always going to leave you feeling great at the end of it.
Yoga really is for everyone!

21 May
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First lesson in love

Photo by Martin Lee / Rex features

Photo by Martin Lee / Rex features

How Fear Could Cost You Your Loved One

There are two feelings that we associate with love; there is pain and there is pleasure. If we associate pain with love we will constantly push it away. I have previously had my heart broken and have been so guilty of holding onto this association. But if we change our mentality to associate love with pleasure then we will draw it to us.

What is love?
Love to me is laughing, smiling, cuddling, understanding, GIVING, compromise, forgiving, passion, butterflies, excitement, safety and oh there are so many other words I could use.

But what if we focus on the fact that being in love can hurt… It’s a fact, it can! In doing this it will only mean that we build up barriers and essentially not give the love we are fully capable of. And when you are not fully giving your love you will be sacrificing getting that special love in return.

Life has given us a gift, this gift is called COURAGE. If we used this wonderful gift we may be afraid but we go ahead and do it anyway, and this doesn’t just apply to love. The joy we can get from using our courage is undeniably worth it. Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers is a book I highly recommend anyone read.

An example of Someone with Fear in Love.
This person is scared to commit her love to the man she obviously adores… Why? She has her story. But her story will come at a cost. What is the cost? Eventually her on-off boyfriend will realise the commitment is not coming and will find a wonderful girl without a story/fear. The new girlfriend will give him every bit of her heart because she doesn’t have that fear. What is the consequence? This poor girl has lost the man she adores at the cost of a fear she didn’t have the courage to face and now she has to watch her man be happy with another girl. OUCH!

I get so excited when I talk about love, I accept that with love comes both pain and pleasure but I push away the pain and embrace everything pleasurable about having a loved one.

SO if to be scared of love could cost you the happiness of giving and receiving it, why would you embrace and validate this fear when it could cost you something so God damn wonderful!

09 May
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Poppy gets a glam fashion week makeover

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So little Poppy walked into Essex Fashion Week in a pair of skinnies and a stripy jumper, but she walked out looking like she was dressed in Chanel, with her nails perfectly manicured and accessorised better than anyone else in there. Yes, my little Popster had been well and truly glammed up Essex-style and she thoroughly enjoyed every bit of it, as did I watching the satisfaction on her little face as she was being dolled up to the nines. We saw Aunty Lauren (Lauren Pope) at the show too, which was an added surprise. Poppy goes to her dad’s house every other weekend and with me working full-time, the odd free days we get together are spent visiting friends or family. So a day like this one is very rare. We had the most wonderful day at an event that really wasn’t geared up for four year olds, but just being together was enough.

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This trip showed me how special it is to have quality mummy and Poppy time. My little princess is the reason I smile on the toughest of days, she is my motivation for success and the reason I make careful decisions every day to set the best example I can for her. Our children learn from our every move so it’s so important we always have this in mind in our day-to-day actions and attitude towards life.

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02 May
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Turning my life around

Two months ago I felt like my life was in the gutter. I was heartbroken after I moved out of Jeff’s house with nowhere to live, I was trying to manage a failing business and be a great mum to Poppy. I felt like an absolute failure to my daughter and to my family who had such high hopes for me. How has this happened to me? Why am I not someone’s everything? How can I be living in my friend’s spare room with my four year old because I simply have no other options? And why is my business failing when I work so hard on it? What a loser!

Well guess what? I’m not a loser I’m human – and I was stuck in a horrible mess that only I could get myself out of. For weeks I felt like there was no hope for me, it didn’t matter how hard I was working to fix it all, I was still getting knocked back down.

After reading every self-help book under the sun I took the pointers I needed and started rebuilding my life again, and I had every reason to. Poppy. This beautiful little girl cannot see my world falling apart, I need to show her the strength and courage I hope she will learn from and use herself one day if she needs too.

So these are a few of the steps I gave myself

Learn to love yourself
Really? Love myself… I have felt unloved for a very long time, so how an earth can I love myself? Der!!!! I had it all wrong, in order to be loved you need to love and respect yourself first. How could I ever expect to get the respect and love I want in my life if I don’t treat myself well. Ok so this doesn’t happen overnight but just knowing this fact is a start and finally I know and believe I am worthy of a lot more than what I have allowed.

Surround yourself with loving, caring and motivating people

These are the people that believe in you no matter what, the people that lift you when your down and keep you grounded when your up.

Piccie of me and Jeff enjoying a fun night out with our friends.

Piccie of me and Jeff enjoying a fun night out with our friends.

Remove The Negative
I had do to this in business, I was very close to entering into a very exciting business partnership which I needed more than anything to take my company to where it needed to go, but the downside was I had a bad feeling about the person I was entering into business with. I was torn between feeling like I needed this person to make my business a success and getting out of it before it was to late. I took a huge risk and pulled out of the deal before it was signed and I have felt nothing but relief since. Phew!

Get a proper job!
Eeeeeek, I have had my own fashion business for a long time so getting a proper job didn’t even enter my head. I realised I needed a stable income and routine in my life. And this was the real turning point for me. I work part-time for a company doing a bit of PR and sales, and this has enabled me to still work on my own company.

Ok so these are just a few of the many steps I have taken and without boring you to tears about everything that happened in-between I began to believe in myself again, my capabilities and I most certainly know my worth now. I have found the most perfect little house for me and Poppy and it seems the few weeks apart from Jeff is exactly what we both needed. So our future is looking exceptionally bright and we are very much in love. There is no question this is the man I want to spend forever with, I am very proud of the steps he has taken to show his love to me. Its so nice to have that “sure” feeling in your tummy and I finally have this about everything. I feel so excited about the future.

The biggest lesson I have learnt from this to never loose belief, if someone knocks you down get back up, trust your intuition and don’t be scared to take a step back in order to take huge steps forward. I haven’t felt this happy in a long long time but it hasn’t come without a tumble here and there. Keep the faith.

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