This week has been a dream!

I can honestly say I have never felt so happy in my life and it’s all because of love. Not just from Ben but from my beautiful little girl, my family and the precious friends that I surround myself with. Life just feels perfect even when it’s not…I have been facing some health issues this year and this week I felt myself getting a bit poorly again, but Ben came to the rescue with a weekend I will never forget! And guess what…I didn’t get ill!!! Wooooohoooooo!!!!

Our day in Brighton was the most romantic day I think I have ever had!! It was completely off the cuff but utter perfection. I don’t want to make out that Ben and I are completely Wet staring into each others eyes all the time because one minute we are gushing with Love and Romance and the next minute he is making me belly laugh like no one else could! We have the best banter I have ever had with anyone. We are the most PERFECT fit!

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We also went for a lovely meal in a fish restaurant in Beaconsfield with his brother Simon and his wonderful family.

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But the icing on the cake was a day with Ben’s daughter Thea and of course my very own Poppy! I will respectfully keep details brief but what I will say is Thea is a beautifully balanced little girl with a fun and kind nature and is an absolute credit to both of her parents and Poppy adores her.

On Sunday morning Ben and I dressed the girls up in party frocks and took them to do something pretty special. We told them we were going to take them in a magic glass lift to take them for breakfast in the sky and we weren’t lying.

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The Duck and Waffle on the 40th floor of the Heron Tower in London  is where we went and it was magical. Not really an obvious destination to take children but if they are as beautifully behaved as the girls were, I can’t see why not.

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Last but not least we spent the afternoon at Old Mcdonalds farm in Essex which was great fun…….. even Ben had a few turns on the tractor.

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I can’t possibly put into words the love and happiness that I feel now but I think you might have a little idea…

Never ever give up on love because its just around the corner when you least expect it.

N xxx

Meet Ben

I am so many months behind with my blog that I feel like I need to bring you completely up to speed on the Ben situation. Ben and I are officially boyfriend and girlfriend and it feels wonderful. He is the funniest guy I have ever met and a bit of a lad but on top of this he has a gentle, kind and caring nature that makes me feel like I can trust him with my heart.

Ben will not be a happy boy with me using this picture because he looks grumpy… He really wasn’t grumpy but I think he was caught off guard a bit here.

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Apart from being super kind, loving, affectionate, funny and generally wonderful, Ben buys me little gifts all the time which I find so cute. These have varied from a keyring, iphone case, chocolate, a book, perfume to a tooth brush and deodorant for his house (Errrrm was he trying to tell me something?) He is so super thoughtful and I LOVE that. He even cooks the most amazing meals for me too. Have I hit the Jackpot??? Its early days but I hope so.

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Poppy’s sports day

What a great week I have had - Poppy absolutely rocked at sports day! Naturally as a parent you would be proud however well your child does in their racebut Poppy-Belle absolutely smashed it and I was bubbling with excitement and trying so hard not to squeal loudly every time she out ran all of the other children. Please don’t think I am being smug but I just feel so proud of my Little munckin.

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My proudest moment came when I saw my five-year-old be the most awesome team leader. Another little girl in her team didn’t do so well and poppy rubbed her arm and said well done you were great. Wow! How is my little girl so ridiculously amazing?!!! This little moment was so special to me and this was the reason she got a little present after sports day and not because she was outstanding in every race.

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Poppy with her best friend Henrietta from school.

To end the sports day naturally Simon and I joined in the parents Sportsday – As you can see Simon took it a little more seriously than I did.

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Ben asked me to go back for ‘cuddles’ on date two!

Date two with Ben was way more nerve-racking than date one.  There seemed to be a lot more pressure with this date.   Am I the only girl in the world that not only has first date fears but worse than that first kiss fears?!  What if you have a first kiss and they dribble or open their mouth really wide or  even worse stick their tongue right down your throat!!!! Eeeeeewwww!!!!

Ben had chosen such a cool bar in Shoreditch called Lounge Lovers.   I would highly recommend trying this place out. The décor is uber cool, this is such a great place for dates or a night out with your friends.  The cocktails are amazing  and not over priced!  I was so impressed.  Great choice B!

There are some pictures below but take a look at the website too.

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We seemed to drink a lot of cocktails and didn’t stop giggling.  I was having such a great time and didn’t want it to end however the lights went on and it was closing time…….. how did this happen so fast?  I hadn’t even had my first kiss yet!!!  All of a sudden I felt nervous again…… was my kiss with Ben on the way?  Was he going to be a gentleman and kiss me on the cheek before he puts me in a taxi?  Nope, he did something much better than that!!!!  Ben held my hand and pulled me towards him quite firmly, he gave me the most passionate first kiss, put his hands in my hair and held me pretty tight.  I have a feeling my foot may have left the floor.  Wow!  We kissed for ages and eventually when we stopped and I opened my eyes I realised we had been kissing in the middle of a road!!!  Oooops!!!!

We went to a night club for a few more drinks which was fun but I had definitely  reached that point of not being able to drink any more even though Ben looked like his night had only just begun.  I didn’t want to spoil his fun but for me it was time to go because I was feeling a bit giddy. Ben wasted no time in popping the question “I think you should come back to mine for cuddles”   In fact that wasn’t even a question! We all know what men mean when they say they want cuddles!!!  And if there are any men reading this……… Yes we know!  I declined Bens offer for ‘Cuddles’ but I thought he was very kind to ask me J

FYI – Never got in from a date at 4.30am before!!!

The next day I had my friend’s wedding to go to, it was unreal!  And soooooo much fun!!!  I was the only one there without a boyfriend but I had a sneaky feeling at the next wedding I might actually be taking a plus one!

N

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My day date with Ben

Ben and I had texted each other a fair amount when he was away and he didn’t beat around the bush in asking me if I would like to meet him for lunch on the Monday he returned.  I was pretty excited to meet him even though I had contemplated giving up The Game.  I think I had come to the conclusion that I just wasn’t interested in wasting my time with the other guys when I new I didn’t feel that spark I was after.

 

Monday arrived and it was a beautiful sunny day!  What a perfect day for lunch in a pub garden.   This is the first day date I had ever been on, I wanted to look nice but also didn’t want to over do it……..  I wore a cute little white dress from Lavish Alice with a pair of flip flops, wavy girly hair and pretty day time make-up.  I was ready to meet the guy that had given me butterflies for two weeks without even speaking to me.  Please please don’t let this be a let down!

 

Sorry I do not have any piccies from the date but below you can see how I achieved my day date look.  (more on the date underneath)

 

Cute Girly Dress from Lavish Alice – In the sale now for just £10 (bargain) – http://www.lavishalice.com/clothing-c1/dresses-c2/white-pleated-capped-sleeve-v-neck-structured-dress-p960

 

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Girly day time make-up

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Wavy Locks like Lauren Pope’s…. You can achieve these with a wand or hair straightners.  Mine are from Cloud Nine and I love them http://www.cloudninehair.com/all-products

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You can also buy the most amazingly natural clip-in hair extensions from – http://www.hairrehablondon.com if you are struggling to achieve this wavy look on your own hair.  I know Lauren wears these hair extensions and her hair always looks amazing!!!!

I always love using my eye shadow palette from Smashbox to do pretty day time eyes. – http://www.smashbox.co.uk/product/12287/28675/Full-Exposure/FULL-EXPOSURE-PALETTE/New/index.tmpl

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Ben was 20 minutes late…… Good start Benny Boy.  However I took the opportunity to have a glass of Pimms at the bar to calm my nerves.  Ben pulled into the car park and I walked outside to meet him, as he walked towards me my heart jumped into my throat.  He was lovely!  His smile was beaming and I loved this.

 

We sat down in the pub garden and chatted and laughed for two hours…… I was really gutted to have to leave because I was having so much fun but I had to pick Poppy up from school. When I got home I texted him to say……  “I think I love you”  he texted me back straight away to say “I defo love you”  awwwwwwww  no games just straight down the line cuteness. We obviously didn’t love each other at this point but we were just being cute!  This is exactly what I want from a guy……… so I felt like I had hit the jackpot.  I just wonder if the cuteness will last!

 

Ben texted me that evening to ask when I was free again, I thought it was really good that he had asked to see me again the same day, there are way to many games between people dating.  If I thought for one second there was any game playing going on that would have been me out.  We were both keen and not at all bothered about showing that to each other.

 

Date two was all booked in…. this time a proper date and Ben had chosen our location to be Shorditch. Ben you’re so cool :)

 

N

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Both dates turn up to meet me on the same night!

Meet Marc
So Paul is still in the background and I am off on a night out with the girls in Clapham where I agreed to meet a guy I had matched with on Tinder, Yes I am on Tinder, I would highly recommend this to anyone single, its great fun! As Tinder guy walked towards me and sat down I soon realised he was totally uninteresting although very pretty to look at, I decided not to waste a night out with my friends so I left him with his to go and get myself a drink from the bar, this is where I met Marc. Oops there I am on a casual tinder date and I get talking to someone else, we exchanged numbers and a date was quickly arranged.

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Meet Jack
Whilst enjoying casual dates with Marc, in fact I was up to date 4 (still no snog though) I was chatting to several other guys on Tinder too…… isn’t this so naughty?! But everyone is doing it right? Someone really cool popped up and his name was Jack! What a handsome guy he was, only 28 which is a bit on the young side for me but chatting to him isn’t doing any harm, is it?

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I swiped to the right and was soon chatting to Ben. But this was different. We instantly had great banter and I got butterflies in my tummy every time the phone beeped before I had even met him. Within about ten minutes of casually chatting we joked about getting married and without sounding like a complete nut case I rang my mum and told her I felt very excited about this guy.

Get back in the Game Nicola!!!
So Ben was off to Vegas the day we started talking and I was gutted that it would be at least 11 days before I got to meet him. I needed to get my head back in the game but I really didn’t want to. I had to remind myself that I was committed to the rules in this book because I never manage to get things right so off I went on my mission to keep four guys on the hob! In all honesty I can’t really count Paul anymore because he had done his disappearing act again leaving me feeling completely used and I knew that was the last time I would let him do that, it’s my fault for getting involved with someone that didn’t want a girlfriend. So let’s say goodbye to Paul now. Bye!

 

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As Ben and I messaged each other the whole time he was away I felt so guilty about carrying on the game even though I hadn’t met him yet! Crazy huh! But I am no fool, he was single and in Vegas so I’m sure he was getting up to all sorts himself.

Dating Marc was really nice but I didn’t feel that spark in my tummy, I kept telling myself it’s not all about that and I needed to persevere. In the meantime I organised a night out to Wimbledon with Jodie and what a night it was.

I must have being feeling particularly daring because I casually invited both guys out…… I didn’t for the life of me expect them to both text me to say they was on their way.

Jodie completely freaked out because as we are standing in the bar waiting for both guys to arrive…… she literally screeches: “Nicola how the hell are you going to get away with this?” OMG OMG OMG now she had freaked me out!!!! I had a genius idea. Let’s get drunk and then we will just find this whole experience hilarious. Jodie and I started knocking back the shots and the rest is a distant memory but according to the photo evidence we had an awesome night and I got a lot of exercise running between Marc and Jack whilst Jodie distracted when necessary.

I saw Jack twice the following week but again I wasn’t getting the butterflies I so desperately wanted. What If I’m craving something that isn’t even real, what if my desire for a fairytale is above and beyond anything that is actually possible? All of a sudden The Game was not something I wanted to play anymore. What’s the point in dating loads of guys that your not really interested in just because the book tells you to? I actually even said to Simon (Poppy’s dad) I think I’m going to be single forever, He just told me I’m to fussy and always pick the idiots anyway. Thanks Si!

But what about Ben? Should I still go on a date with him despite giving up the game?

My quest to find the man of my dreams

Its been a while since I blogged but after receiving endless tweets and emails asking for updates here I am. Check me out being in demand! :)

For those of you that haven’t followed my blogs before I am a complete open book, I like to share everything straight from the heart because I know so many of you can relate to what I have been through. In a nutshell – way too much heartache! On my quest to meet the man of my dreams I will not settle for anything less than perfection. I would like to meet a kind giving man but I know he also has to be super fun, I do not mean giving in the material sense but someone that will go above and beyond for me everyday as I would for the person I love. I am so over being with selfish, self absorbed men.

Thank god for my friends who have listened to me rant on and on about this for months!

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Let’s rewind seven months. I had been single for just under a year and no such luck on the dating circuit! A friend of mine Marc set me up on a date with his work colleague Paul and this was the first guy for a long time that I felt could be right. We got on great but before long there were a lot of red flags. Mainly he told me he didn’t want a girlfriend so we all know what this means. I carried on seeing Paul whilst still dating other guys, I guess I was hopeful that Paul would change his mind but in the meantime I wasn’t going to put my life on hold for him. The problem was all the time I was seeing Paul I was never really interested in any of the poor guys that I went on dates with so it was counter productive and a waste of time.

Paul was really confusing because one minute he would be totally full on with me and the next he would disappear. He even suggested some kind of future with me at one point and whilst deep down I knew I didn’t want to be with a guy like this long term I was somehow drawn in. Maybe it was the challenge or the need to conquest him. My friends would all say to me, Nicola you don’t actually want him, you just don’t like losing because normally you can take your pick, I wouldn’t have gone that far but maybe that’s the truth. In hindsight his lack of ambition and drive would have bored me to tears eventually anyway.

If in doubt just go out with the girls and do a few shots!

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Now we are in March and somehow stumble across a book called…… wait for it. The Power Of The P***y. With a name like this you know it is going to be an intellectual read so of course I downloaded it straight away to listen to on audio at bed time. Girls this book changed my life but it wasn’t easy!!!! I have read so many books and I will list all of my favorites at the bottom of the blog but this one for me gave me all the tools I needed to sift through a fair few men to find the man of my dreams.

Available to buy at amazon here.

The biggest lesson I learned from this book is the game! The game is not a nice game in my eyes but 100% necessary and I was fully committed even though its something I would never have done before, I have obviously NOT been getting it right so far so why not try something new.

“You need to have four guys on the go at once”

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You need to have four guys on the go at once…….. as I read this my eyes popped out of my head and my jaw dropped to the ground. Four guys at once, how an earth am I going to manage this????!!!!! Let me make a very important point here, you do not sleep with any of them!!!! There is a two month rule where by each guy you are with will prove himself to you, what is he willing to do to make you feel special? Does he go that extra mile? Does he call when he says he will? Do you meet his friends? Does he still want to see you when you don’t invite him in? Ultimately if a guy is completely into you he wont mind waiting however long it takes for the good stuff, mean while he is falling head over heals in love with you. Well this is what the book says. The book tells you to treat the men as you would a hob (so random I know) The two guys that are doing the most work get to the front of the hob and receive the most attention and the other two sit at the back until they prove otherwise. My god what happened to just meeting someone and falling in Love and it just feeling right? This is how it should happen in my eyes but apparently not. Grrrrrr I have spent so long wishing for a fairytale like romance and now I have resorted in playing games!!!

I want this!

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My next blog will be revealing the four guys I put on the hob! Just give me a few days to get permission to use there pictures…. Not sure how I am going to manage this one, I am friends with them all still so I hopefully it should be easy (apart from the one I suspected had a girlfriend or some other kind of secret life – no names mentioned Paul).

In the meantime it’s me and the Princess Poppy taking on the world! :)

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As promised other books I found really good on the same subject are below.

He’s Just Not That Into You

Why Men Love B*****s

It’s Called A Breakup Because It’s Broken

Another great girls’ night out

Hi everyone,

I am one of these people that says I don’t drink. What I mean is I don’t drink a lot, so when I do it only takes a couple of glasses of wine for me to get tipsy (tipsy sounds way better than drunk).

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Last Friday I went out with two of my best friends Jodie and Carly. We always seem to have the most crazy nights out. The best thing about it is, all we want to do is get dolled up, find somewhere that plays good music, have a few cocktails and dance like doughnuts! Well Jodie and I dance like doughnuts while Carly normally watches and laughs at our moves!

I am obviously quite easily pleased because the highlight of my night was coming out of a nice cocktail bar to get a kebab. It is probably the tackiest thing to do but it was comical, three girls all dressed up, standing in the street eating a kebab. I knew I had a long night ahead of me and I was absolutely starving. This is normally something you would do at the end of the night but I have to say I would highly recommend it. I seemed to find a new lease of sober life once I had finished and I was ready for round two. So off we went to JJ Whispers in Crawley to dance our little socks off and have a few more drinks.

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The joke of the night is that I have put on just under a stone in weight, which I am very happy about because I was way to thin before. However, the weight has gone straight to my bum!!! So of course I was shaking it as much as I could, while Jodie was doing the running man next to me… Very uncool but who cares?! Girls’ nights are all about having a laugh with your girlfriends and we most certainly had a lot of that, as you can see from all of the silly pictures below.

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Lastly, the icing on the cake was that I bumped into an old and special friend who I haven’t seen for five years Tommy. Tommy and I lived together in Canary Wharf just before I got pregnant so we had many good times together to reminisce about.

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My one mistake of the whole night was that I decided to text my ex-boyfriend on the way home in the taxi… cringe, cringe, cringe! I had so much fun in the nightclub that I originally met him in and I was desperate to tell him about my night. I didn’t get a response but I am not that surprised. I wish he had sent me something in the morning to ease my embarrassment of drunk texting, but no. Oooops!

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This was the best night’s I have had out in ages and guess what, I didn’t even have a hang over!!! I now swear by the kebab pit stop half way through the night to soak up the alcohol, which is wrong, wrong, wrong but oh so right! ;)

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I am in a very happy place right now, life seems very uncomplicated and that’s just how I like it. What more can I ask for? I have a job, a home, a beautiful little girl who is extremely balanced and I have crazy nights out with my friends every so often – I’m a lucky girl!

Back soon everyone,

Nic x

Making a ‘rockstar princess pumpkin’ with my daughter Poppy

 

Hi everyone! I hope you had a lovely Halloween.

I cannot remember Halloween being such a big deal when I was a little girl but for the new generation of little people it is the thing to do and I have to say I have enjoyed every second of it.

 

 

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We started off carving our pumpkin a few days ago and Poppy decided the theme for the pumpkin was going to be a ‘princess rock star pumpkin’, how an earth do you do one of those?

I felt under pressure because my neighbour Hannah who has become my friend over the past few months is a super mum and as I took an hour to create my rock star princess pumpkin she had finished three, one for each of her children. I was put to shame!

 

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Halloween arrived and my joke to Poppy in the morning asking her if she saw the witch walk past the window didn’t go down very well so I gave up trying anymore spooky Halloween fun.

Off we went to swimming lessons then Poppy went off with Nanny Tina while I went to work.  I was itching to finish so I could get back for trick or treating.  I was glad to finish so I could paint Poppy’s face.

 

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Honestly I was in my element.  I know it is wrong on many levels but if there is one time that its ok to put eye makeup on my child its when she is dressing up as a pretty witch!  Have I found something I am good at here…  I thought she looked pretty good.

We had a really lovely Halloween and trick or treating was an absolute blast, I was truly amazed at the effort so many people had gone to to make it special for the trick or treaters.  I am excited for next year’s Halloween now and I will most definitely be dressing up too.

 

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I love that the Brits are now making something that was typically known for eggs and flower throwing (when I was growing up) into a really lovely thing to do with the little ones.  Bring on next October!

Being friends with Poppy’s dad…

Poppy, Simon and I went to see the Barbie Mariposa film screening this week. It is rare that we do family activities together as Simon lives and plays football up north, but what a special treat for Poppy to be taken out by mummy and daddy together.

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Me, Poppy and Simon

My friends are always wanting Simon and I to get back together but we both know it’s never ever going to happen, I think we are more like brother and sister – we can argue one minute (normally when Simon blames me for the traffic jam we are in) and then the next minute we are laughing our heads off and being silly together. So, whilst we might look like a happy little family, we are in fact just two great friends that happen to have made a baby together, come to think of it thats the definition of a perfect happy family isn’t it?!

I love Simon coming to stay with us, he makes me a cup of tea in the morning (which is a winner!) but most of all I love those moments where I can sit back and watch my daughter play so beautifully with her dad. The moments where she is snuggled up to him on the sofa and the moments where she tries to play us off against each other so she can get her own way. As silly as it sounds it’s those teeny little things that I notice that are special to me. I feel lucky that being friends with Poppy’s dad means I get to share moments like this with the person that loves her just as much as I do.

I love seeing poppy and her dad just hanging out together, Poppy was watching Robin Hood here – please excuse the tattoos all over her legs that don’t seem to want to come off!

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Simon with Poppy

One day I’m pretty sure Simon will get himself a girlfriend and, of course, I will be swept away by Prince Charming (laughing at myself now for never learning that fairy tales are not real). Whatever happens I know that it will never change the dynamics of our friendship like it did previously because it’s too important for us to show Poppy that, thanks to her, we will always have a very strong bond. I regret pushing Simon out of my life before, I think I was confused about what was right and wrong whilst being in a relationship. I realise now that there is no ‘wrong’, it should always be OK for us to meet up for dinner or day trips and, as long as the potential new partners are always included and never pushed out, I don’t see it ever being a problem. Lets hope its not!

For more of my blogs, fashion tips, beauty tips and recipes check out my new website simplynicola.com – I hope you like it.

Nx

Girls’ Night Out!

I feel like I have hit the nail on the head guys. I mean this is the first time in a long, long time that I feel like I have a beautiful balance in my life. I am working my little butt off for my two companies and exercising like mad, but also making lovely time for my precious little girl, friends, and family. I really am having a wonderful time, I think it helps that the sun has been shining so much too.

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Ellie Crisell and me

Last week I went out for my friend Ellie Crissell’s birthday drinks in Battersea. It was so nice to go out with the girls, get dressed up, drink cocktails, dance and get chatted up by boys (ha ha I feel like such a teenager saying that!). I wore a tight dress, which is unlike me because I normally wear floaty girly dresses, but I did feel a little bit sexy. Oh dear, did I say that out loud!

Sipping a delicious cocktail!

Sipping a delicious cocktail!

I feel like a mummy most of the time, so it’s rare that I would say I feel sexy and, as silly as it sounds, it’s good for a woman to feel like a woman and I felt good – we don’t want to be just mum all the time! I don’t think it was all about the tight dress, being around my friends and having a laugh gives me back that bit of me that was missing for a long while.

Carly, me and Jodie

Carly, me and Jodie

What a wonderful night with beautiful friends!

Nic x

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