Week 2: Accidents, Successes and Progress
Jenni, her husband James and their two year old daughter Ella are taking the plunge and are embarking on a very public potty training.
Once Ella had recovered from her cold, the nappies came off last Saturday. I was prepared for the first couple of days to be difficult as I had spoken to my neighbours who have older children and they confirmed the first couple of days can be quite tricky (and messy) for both the parents and the child.
At first poor Ella just couldnâ€™t understand why we were doing it. She definitely didnâ€™t understand what to do. I then became worried that we were doing it too soon; even though we had talked about it with Ella last week it seemed that she missed the security of her nappy.
Unsurprisingly, Ella had a lot of accidents on Saturday, she got through quite a few pairs of big girl knickers and one pair even went into the bin.Â There were even a number of outfit changes. By bedtime on Saturday, both mother and daughter were knackered and Ella fell straight asleep in her night-time nappy.
Sunday continued to be much of the same. I have to admit I donâ€™t think I appreciated how time consuming potty training would be. Ella has been very clingy and wanting her mummy, which is understandable when she is experiencing change. James has been very supportive and kept telling me that I was doing a great job and now that we have started it was important to keep going. Whenever I wavered, he quoted the â€˜How to Potty Trainâ€™ book to give me encouragement which was sweet.
The Dry Like Me pads have been a good half way house, at first Ella thought the pads were a type of nappy and therefore felt normal and comfortable. A number of her pees were absorbed by the pads. However, on one occasion the pad couldnâ€™t hold all the pee (as they are not designed to hold a full pee, as that would be a nappy!) and Ella was very stressed out, she didnâ€™t want anyone to change her and was ashamed of what had happened.
I was amazed that my two-year-old daughter could feel such an emotion and felt bad for her, but had to keep telling myself that accidents are all part of her learning when she needs the loo.Â Â I just kept saying to her itâ€™s ok, you will do it right next time and then she did.
Thankfully, Monday was a different story, Ella had put all the pieces of the puzzle together and she understood what needed to be done. She started telling me when she needed a pee and now goes over to her potty and sits down. She doesnâ€™t always go and sometimes sits there for up to 20 minutes but she is starting to understand the signals her body make when she needs the loo.
Ella likes to move her potty around with her so she doesnâ€™t miss out on anything and also so she doesnâ€™t have to run too far when she needs a wee. She prefers the plain potty downstairs as she thinks the duck potty is a toy and not a place for pee! We only had one accident on Monday.
Tuesday was even better with no accidents at all. We introduced high fives and chocolate buttons as rewards, she gets one chocolate button for a pee and two chocolate buttons for a poo â€“ Ella is yet to receive two chocolate buttons at once as no number twos have happened in the potty yet. She must be holding in her number twos as she does them first thing in her night-time nappy.
James is now away for ten days and it is great that my mum has been able to come to stay, she has been doing a grand job whilst I have been out at work. It really is an all-consuming part of parenting and I am very grateful that my mum can spare her time to help me with Ella.
It was a tough week, but looking back we have made huge progress and I feel we have turned a massive corner and I mustnâ€™t be tempted to put the nappy back on.